What’s yours is mine, What’s mine is....?????? This phrase is used all the time when I hear people discussing items and who they belong to in marriage and trust me I have heard it ended many, many, ways but what is the correct way?
My husband, being the jokester he is, loves quite often to joke around with me and say “What’s yours is mine and what’s mine is mine” and I have to so politely disagree, shake my head, roll my eyes, giggle, and well respond with “Nope, honey what’s yours is mine and what’s mine is mine!” But, am I right or am I wrong? If I went by how I was raised and the example that was set before me, I would say I am 100% correct. I’ll use this example. While growing up my dad worked a full-time job and when he would come home on Friday, the first thing he would do would is sign his paycheck over to my mom. He never worried with the bills or anything else financial related, he just knew mom was taking care of everything and she did faithfully. Now I love my parents very much and they have a great marriage. This is the way things work for them, however I am learning that it’s not the way it works in our marriage. Different marriages run different ways. Being a newlywed, one of the adjustments I am having to make is my stance on the what’s yours is mine and what’s mine is yours concept. Here is why: before I met my husband, I lived alone since I was in my early 30’s. I had my own place, earned my own money, came and went as I pleased, and well what was mine was truly mine. In a matter of a few months I had to switch from that mentality to learning how to share, and that hasn’t been easy and I mean that with all sincerity. I can be quite selfish. God is teaching me in this season of marriage selfishness has no place. When you get married, you, as husband and wife lose your individual identity and become one. The word “I” is dropped from your vocabulary and replaced with “we”. Not “my” but “our”. So today it hit me out of nowhere; all along both the ways that this sentence has been said is wrong. If you really think about it we have left out one main factor of the equation and that is God. God is the source of everything I have, Everything my husband has, and everything we have together; it is all his! wow. Think about it; if God isn’t in everything we have as a unit, we have nothing, I have nothing, you have nothing; We are broke! Bankrupt. So in closing, the next time your husband or wife comes in and they ramble off the words, "What’s yours is mine, what’s mine is mine, " you remind them of this article. Nope, What’s mine is yours, What’s yours is mine, and what’s ours is His!"
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AuthorMy Name is Laura Perdue. I am 44 years old and married to my best friend, Brian Perdue and mommy to Carston Perdue. Brian and I reside in Woodstock Ga and serve on the action team of Fivestones Church in Holly Springs. Archives
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