Oh be careful little eyes what you see, Oh be careful little eyes what you see, For the Father up above is looking down in love Oh be careful little eyes what you see. This very song was the inspiration for this article. To be honest, this is probably one of the most difficult ones I have written thus far. For several years, ladies close to me have admitted that at some point in their marriage their husbands struggled with and/or was addicted to porn and described the hurt and betrayal they felt. Some even got to the point that divorce was their only option. Now before you even ask, I am not writing from something I haven't experienced. I was with someone who was addicted and sat in the church with me. Before meeting my husband, I dated a guy who was extremely addicted to porn. Taking every avenue, he attempted to fulfill his flesh, even dating multiple ladies. Desiring to be married, I questioned how I would ever live up to a man's expectation, especially if those portrayed in porn were what they all wanted? How I could ever fulfill my future husband's sexual desires? The enemy had me believing that I would not ever accomplish it and that I would always fail at relationships and marriage. I eventually ended that relationship. Today, I want to confront a very serious issue that is affecting marriages and destroying families! I am not even calling it an issue, it's a spirit, one that is deceitful and wreaking havoc across the world. It's pornography. Yes, I said it, pornography! Pornography is not just magazines or pictures. It can appear in many forms; cybersex, phone sex, strip clubs, and now rearing its ugly head in the teen world as sexting. Oh and ladies you aren't excluded. I am also going to address that little book you have been reading that you feel is harmless- you know, that favorite romance novel hidden in your nightstand beside your bed. The one that takes you into a fantasy world of love and romance and when your spouse doesn't live up to that expectation you become angry and attack him. Or, you find yourself in a "spider web" of trouble such as an emotional or physical affair trying to find fleshly satisfaction. The spirit of romance that these books and shows like "50 shades of Grey" and "Magic Mike" portrays to you is a lie of the enemy and we must remove these things from our lives and our marriages now! I want to challenge you to begin to guard and protect the most precious things in your lives-you marriage, your children, and your future children and grandchildren. Take control of this addiction right now once and for all. If you are struggling and want to know how to start being free, start with setting boundaries in your homes, in your workplaces, on social media, and be accountable to each other. Find a brother or sister in Christ that you can talk to. A great scripture to start with is Ephesians 6:11-17.
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AuthorMy Name is Laura Perdue. I am 44 years old and married to my best friend, Brian Perdue and mommy to Carston Perdue. Brian and I reside in Woodstock Ga and serve on the action team of Fivestones Church in Holly Springs. Archives
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